It's been a few weeks since my last post on catching you up. I stay so busy I don't have time to sit down and type. Most of the time I'm not feeling it and if my heart doesn't tell the story you wouldn't be interested. So i wait until the time is right to tell our story. So here i am wanting to tell you about our meeting with Isaiah but I must write this short blog to prepare you......
Adoption is hard and is Gods test of patients, endurance and Faith. You must believe in and trust the lord with all of your heart. It's just not possible without him by your side, holding your hand in times of fear, wiping tears during the heartbreak, and standing back smiling when things are good. I can say i have felt Gods presence in everyone of these situations. I have no doubt that he's been by my side through it all: the good, the bad, and the ugly. Yes, all three.
Adoption will be the hardest thing you ever go through. Adoption will change your life and everyone involved. You will work hard. You will spend endless hours on the computer researching, reading, and filling out documents about your life history, every childish mistake, any and everything that you thought was a secret or forgotten will be remembered. Very few people go into adoption fully funded, you will work hard to earn the money needed. When it comes down to your child biological or adoptive you will beg or borrow do whatever it takes to protect them or get them home. Adoption is emotionally hard. I promise you will laugh, cry, be angry, happy and sad. Maybe all at the same time. Every adoption is different, NO ONE has a perfect adoption
Adoption is not a plan B or a second best!! Adoption is traumatic, intense, and painful! When you decide to adopt you either choose a child from a photolisting or are given a referral. At best you are given a brief history of the child. For example: this year old boy was found in a local market alone. or this child is relinquished because his family can not provide for him or this child was sent to find work or monies for the family and lost their way, now the family can't be found. It will take many years, if ever, if your adopting an older child (like us) to know your childs story, because i promise there is a WHOLE LOT more to the story than you can even imagine. A mother is a mother we may value our children differently but most mothers faced with having to give their children for adoption love them enough to give them up for adoption so they can have a better life than they have ever dreamed for them. It's heartbreaking!! I can not even begin to imagine having my daughter and not being able to provide for her. As the adoptive parent you will go through all these things too. Its incredibly difficult to go weeks or months with no movement on your case. It's traumatic to fly across the world to see your child and love on them then have to leave them until the process is finished. It's painful when the first meeting doesn't go as your expect, and your Faith will be tested. Adoption is hard for everyone involved.
Adoption is not written in Hollywood! The perfect stories of the child running into adoptive parents arms or the ones where the child is a murderer and burns the new home down while they sleep are rare. Sure both have happen, but it's rare. If you want Hollywood rent a movie, if you want real emotion, love, joy, heartache and beauty adopt. Adoption is not easy and it is not for everyone but for those who see it through it will be rewarded.
MOST IMPORTANTLY......
Adoption is beautiful! Adoption is a blessing! Adoption is Grace and Mercy. Adoption is a miracle just like child birth. Adoption is Gods calling to care for the orphans and widows. Adoption is the gospel. Adoption is love. Adoption is my beautiful family and even though i know the tough times will come our faith will continue to be tested i know God will still be by my side to wipe the tears, hold my hand, and stand back and smile. Through the good, bad and ugly adoption is forever. Adoption is love.
1 John 4:19 We love because he loved us first
